Learning to type hit a roadblock1/20/2024 ![]() ![]() ![]() Or the few times you were vulnerable and opened up about how you were truly feeling you were met with invalidation, and the part doesn’t want that to happen again. Maybe there’s a protective part that prevents you from sharing about yourself because in the past you were only allowed to inhabit a caregiver role and it worries that you would be a burden to others. This is a sign that there are some parts in our inner system that could use some TLC. When we’re struggling or have a lot of repressed emotions, our parts tend to have more knee-jerk reactions that limit us. When we’re mentally healthy, our many parts are in harmony with one another and serve us well. These parts try to protect us from repeating uncomfortable or painful experiences from our past. Different parts will come out when there’s conflict, when we feel vulnerable, when things feel overwhelming or even out of control. Having multiple parts of self is totally normal and actually a good thing! Our parts of self help us to shift from our different personas and demands with work, parenting, friendships, intimate relationships and so on. This therapy focuses on the idea that we all have multiple parts of self. Whatever roadblock you may be facing, it’s likely the work of a part of yourself whose job it is to protect you. Fortunately, there is a different way of viewing these roadblocks through the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy. I personally think these labels can feel shameful and lead to people thinking that they just need to “try harder” in therapy, only to feel defeated when they’re unable to do so. Some might call this self-sabotage or being resistant to the therapy process. Or maybe you know exactly what you need to focus on in your therapy, but when you talk about it, you feel really detached and indifferent. Maybe you find a part of yourself desperately wanting to feel better, but another part of you doesn’t want to embrace any change. Or that you and your therapist come up with these great goals and coping skills, only to never attempt them outside of the session. Have you ever been in therapy and noticed yourself holding back? Maybe that shows up as not telling your therapist about significant events in your life, even if you think it might be important. ![]()
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